When you date a person’s potential, you’re not accepting them for who they are. Acknowledge his shortcomings and your problems as a couple, even if that makes things less romantic. The way to stay away from scary relationships is not to avoid them, but to honor yourself over both him and over your ideal of the relationship you hope to be in.
[T]ime is precious, and she wanted to be spending hers with the people and things she truly loved. That included the beautiful sprawling house in the Pacific Northwest she had painstakingly restored—but, increasingly, it did not include the mortgage payments, constant repairs, and general time-suck of home ownership. A new sense of clarity began to take hold: Just what was all this stuff for?
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