items of interest to me and, possibly, to you.

Flares at Golden Gate (by gsmaga)

Flares at Golden Gate (by gsmaga)

 
 
Morning Fog - San Francisco (by davidyuweb)

Morning Fog - San Francisco (by davidyuweb)

 
Here’s the cold hard truth about “The Friend Zone”: all that’s happened is that this person doesn’t want to date you or sleep with you. That’s it. There’s no malice involved. You’re not being exiled, tricked, toyed with, kept on “the friend ladder” or any other horseshit, she’s just not into you the way you’re into her. Period, the end.

Ask Dr. Nerdlove: Why Did She Choose Him Over Me?

Part of the problem with the concept of the Friend Zone is that it presumes that a sexual relationship is the primary reason to interact with women, and friendship is the consolation prize, the vastly inferior substitute. It encourages dudes to treat women like vending machines where if you put enough Nice Guy tokens in, eventually sex falls out. Holding on to an attitude like that is going to run counter to the idea of actually talking with women like human beings.”

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
I’d be lying if I wrote that I remember exactly what he said. I don’t. Which is the sad half life of arguments—we usually remember our side better.

Effort Is Not the Enemy of Compassion - Leslie Jamison - The Atlantic

 
 
1932 photo of Seal Rock, Cliff House, Sutro Baths and the Golden Gate (minus the bridge)

1932 photo of Seal Rock, Cliff House, Sutro Baths and the Golden Gate (minus the bridge)

 
 
 

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